How to Painlessly Get Back with Your Ex Girlfriend

The break-up was awful. And now you want to get back with your ex. But that won't be easy, because you left her on less than good terms.

If you're willing to work a bit, you can get her back. It's a smart choice if you've weighed your options and you really want her back. A high percentage of break-ups can be settled, and then the two of you can move on with your life together. But first you have to convince her that you have a life together.

The first step to get back with your ex is to determine what led to the break-up. You can't change the past, but the reason will always be out there if it's not settled now. If a mistake was made by you or her, learn from it and move on, together. No matter what the reason was for your break-up, you need to find out the other, deeper underlying causes. You can't move on until you settle things and understand each other.

Be sure that you don't seem needy to your ex, or you may be defeated before you start. But do be honest with her, and don't play hard-to-get just to be difficult.

Don't try to make your ex jealous, either. This can often backfire on you, and it is not a step in the right direction if you want to get back with your ex. Instead of playing games, talk honestly to her. Tell her how much she meant in your life, and how much you would like to have her back with you. If you are open and honest, she will see that you had a special relationship, and she'll want you back, too.

Set up a personal meeting for this talk with her. You want to purge yourself of anything that might have been eating you about your relationship, and you want her to feel free and open to do the same.

Make the call, and make an honest attempt to get back with your ex. In all likelihood, she wants to get back together as much as you do.